Jul
14
2011

In Lieu of Flowers

Traditionally flowers are a way to represent growth, new life and movement forward. The natural beauty of flowers at the funeral parlor and at the home of mourners brings a sense of warmth and comfort to the situation.

For many years we’ve been reading in the obituaries “in lieu of flowers”. Study after study it has been shown that in fact most families of the deceased feel that flowers brighten up the somber atmosphere of the funeral parlor adding that they also felt comfort in reading the cards sent with the floral arrangements.  We also believe that it gives people something to talk about during what always seems to be a hard and uncomfortable time for many.  I just recently experienced this and the flowers seemed to help even the young children deal with a sad situation.

We understand the importance of donating to charities and do so myself frequently but just recently I attended a funeral where “in lieu of flowers” was in the obituary.  I walked into the parlor and there was this sense of tremendous emptiness.  It was dark, quiet and to be honest extremely morbid and looked like the deceased had no friends.  One floral arrangement would have made such a difference and I am sure would have helped the grieving family.

Many times when a family is struck with the daunting task of making funeral arrangements they are sad and confused.  The floral industry believes the funeral directors suggest they omit flowers as it becomes more work for them.  No flowers mean they don’t have to move them to the church or cemetery yet they will sell you flowers that will cost you a  whole lot more than going to your local florist.  It makes perfect sense but are they really being fair to the grieving families?

We had a customer tell us that he was donating to the charity the family requested as well as sending flowers and he was not going to be told how to spend his money. I always remember that whenever I read “in lieu of flowers.”

Often when clients call to order flowers for funerals we suggest they send to the home rather than the parlor if there is only one day visitation. Sending a gorgeous phalaenopsis orchid plant is something unique and certain to be enjoyed for many months or an all white and green fresh flower vase arrangement. Having flowers at home brings a sense of comfort and will be there longer for the family to enjoy.

So the next time you see “in lieu of flowers” think of consoling the family who have just lost a loved one with a beautiful floral sentiment from the heart.

Rest in peace with flowers…